Family is Complicated

Today I had an emotionally big conversation with my mother because I dared to ask for her help. Everything from her comes with a cost. I asked for help with buying wipes and toilet paper and the response was “Is this a hand up or a handout”. I have to believe that most families are not like this. I struggle because I’m a single mom with no child support and I’m treated like a freeloader by someone who is ‘supposed’ to care about me. Furthermore the only reason she has anything to begin with is because of the help of her ex-husband, father, mother, and current husband… Its just blasphemy for me to ask for help the way she has and for the benefit of my children not just myself.

More importantly though, I am grateful I have friends! I put the word out to Facebook and found what we needed and then some. I had a few beautifully generous people send me some funds and donate to us and we got free food today which is a great help. I’m grateful to my community for helping raise my spirits and showing up for us. I know we all deserve compassion and sometimes it comes from those we choose and not the ones assigned to us at birth. I really can’t thank you enough. To all the single moms and dads keeping up with the times and lives of these small humans, we are not alone, we just need to help each other. I hope this is a start to a great weekend.